Close the Trap Door on Self Sabotaging Behaviour!

Self-sabotaging behavior occurs when your behavior is not aligned with your goals. 

When you consider that to live a deeply fulfilling life we need to 1. have a purpose and 2. be successful at achieving that purpose, it's easy to see how important it is to  discontinue behaviours that will jeopardize that, such as self-sabotage.

To learn about what you can do to close the trap door of self-sabotage, click here to listen to the interview I gave to Priyi Ali of vibe365: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/priyaali/2012/07/25/self-sabotaging-behavior-with-special-guest--kristina-jansz

Even More Life Skills to Share with You!

I am so pleased to announce that I now have an additional blog to this one. In it I share insights and tips for living a Soul Conscious life. 

I hope you'll take a minute to visit it:   http://soulconsciousliving.wordpress.com/

Wishing you the best!

 Kristina

Breathe PEACE! Follow Up

My heartfelt thanks to everyone who participated online and offline, in the Breathe PEACE! event yesterday.

I am absolutely overjoyed by the response and the huge number of people I received emails from regarding my efforts to generate more Peace in this world. Clearly this was needed and so, as a result of all of you stepping up and making use of the space I created, I will be organizing this event again.While I have not chosen a date as yet, it will most likely be in the next couple of months giving me enough time to make more Peace connections.

I learned a lot from this experience and will be making some changes as to how I go about things next time making it easier for people to participate and getting more people involved. 

Until then, Breathe PEACE!

My deepest thanks to you,

Kristina Jansz

Breathe PEACE

Will you join me this Sunday, June 26th, 2011 for 10 minutes in the online Breathing Room to breathe Peace around the world?

To get a sense of how the Breathing Room works it would be a good idea to visit the website a day or two before hand and become comfortable with it. One of the wonderful things about this site is that we can see where around the world the others are who are breathing with us.

Here’s how it will work:

1. At 8:55am EST /Toronto time (or earlier if you’d like more time), sit and quiet your energy

2. At 9:00am EST enter the online Breathing Room. Here is the link: http://doasone.com/BreathingRooms.aspx?RoomID=1

3. In the lower left hand corner click on the ‘Universal Breathing Room’. In the right hand corner click on ‘Intentionalize’ and choose the intention, PEACE.

4. From 9:00am EST to 9:10am EST focus your intention on PEACE while you breathe. Draw the energy of Peace into you with each inhalation and with each exhalation send it out to the world

My intention will be that every being on our planet Earth; every child, woman and man, every leader, healer, convict and abuser, each and every heart that feels alone, lost and frightened, every plant, animal, droplet of water and the Earth herself, will experience an indescribable fullness of Peace and that within this experience of Peace, healing will take place, healing that will allow us to live in a more compassionate, loving and peaceful world.

5. There is power in numbers so while you are breathing your focused Intention, feel the energy of being joined together with others around the world who are doing this at the some time.

I very aware that for some of you participating in this, it will mean that you have to get up extremely early and to you my heart is filled with such great gratitude for this extra effort.

Thank you so very much and I’ll be with you in the Breathing Room this Sunday at 9:00am EST/ Toronto time,

Namaste!
Kristina Jansz

The Anatomy of a Highly Effective Apology

I can't even begin to count how many times people have told me that someone has said 'Sorry' to them without knowing what they were apologizing for.  Not only is the apology ineffective, it increases the amount of resentment in the one who was wronged leading to a deeper level of hurt and distrust.

If your intent to apologize is sincere, do it correctly!  

Here is the anatomy of a sincere and effective apology:

1. Acknowledge / describe what you did that was hurtful.

2. Acknowledge / describe the pain, suffering and damage that your actions inflicted on the other.

3. Sincerely (speak from your heart) apologize for what you did and the pain it has caused.

4. Describe what you have learned from the experience and your goals for changing your behavior so that this will never happen again.

5. Acknowledge that you understand 'talk is cheap' and that it will be your behavior not your words which, over time, will earn back the trust of the other.
6. Pay special attention to HOW you deliver the message: tone and volume of voice, facial expressions, body language and attitude. Remember: how you deliver the message is part of the message itself.

Following this, give the person you're apologizing to time to absorb what you have said and perhaps even ask some questions. Keep in mind that just because you're ready to apologize, it doesn't mean the other person is ready to hear it.

Try not to get on the defensive when questions are asked and note that when the hurt has gone very deep, you will most likely have to repeat these steps a few times. If the relationship is truly important to you, you will have no doubts about doing this.

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You miss 100% of the shots you don't take

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take" -Wayne Gretzky

It's okay if you don't succeed or do things perfectly every time you try something new. In fact, no one succeeds at everything the first time.

Attempting something, making mistakes, evaluating, making changes to what you did and trying again (and then repeating this process over and over again) is just part of the process. 

The greatest setback in your life will not be if you fail, it will be if you don't try at all.

So, let this be the day that you step out of your comfort zone and strive for something greater. If you need training to prepare for it, reach out and get it. If you need some moral support, ask for it, just make sure you try! :)

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Teen and Young Adult Depression

Here is a fantastic site for teens and young adults dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts. Please forward this link on to others. You could be saving a life! 
www.copingvsmoping.com.